Alienation and dangerous sexual deviation

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...is a presentation of non standard points of view on some nice scary subjects :-)
Most people do not spend rational time on subjects of sexual deviance, or on their attitude towards those who they class as deviant. It is this lack of sensible thought on sensitive topics such as paedophilia that I will highlight as being a detriment to Western society.

Notes :- On notation: A passive X is a person who does not practice X sexual relations.

1. ped·o·phile n.
   • an adult who is sexually attracted to a child or children.
     [ From dictionary.com. ]
2. paedophilia n.
   • condition of being sexually attracted to children.
     [ Collins pocket English Dictionary ]

Alienation and dangerous sexual deviation

Rejection
Have you ever wandered why the paedophiles that we know about, the famous ones, are all famous for bad reasons? It is obvious that there must be many more non active paedophiles, most of whom are normal moralistic human beings. How come no one can be seen as a good person, famous, wholehearted, and also classify themselves as a passive paedophile?

If a paedophile comes not to care about society and other people (and there are plenty who display an misanthropic contempt for humanity) then it is in part because they were ostracized and rejected by their entire set of friends and family.

If we want to stop a person from becoming the dangerous misanthrope, for whatever reason they are classed as potentially dangerous, then the worse thing we can do is give up on them, resent them, attack them, alienate them, hate them or abandon them.

Sometimes it is too late, or sometimes the deviants psychology is too alien for us to be able to do this. It happens that when a person is too alien, when hir thought processes are too far removed from what is expected of a person, then when it surfaces people will act irrationally. With a little thought or consideration we can override this.

Scapegoats

"You're the man with no choice, yes it's been decided you've done wrong.
And there's single voice that will stand up and say, 'oh just what has he done?'
For they all read the news, and it's surely proof enough for them.
And they flatly refuse to consider, oh, was he really to blame?"

"When the fingers point" music track by The Christians

People succumb to their own desires all the time. (I am not discussing morals here, just plain fact). All it takes is one instance for a person to be labelled a paedophile. Recently at a university my friend attends (anonymous), an unknown person was arrested for downloading child pornography. The person (being a student) is highly unlikely to ever have harmed a child. They may or not be a paedophile, but the chances are this person has only committed a thought crime.

This person cannot return to any university and cannot get any further support for their education. Due to the nature of the arrest, they will be registered as a paedophile (even if they are not jailed). Immediately this person is being treated as subhuman, being rejected and hated by everyone who hears about it, especially by his family and relatives.

We all think bad things. We all consider killing people, rape, damage, violence, theft, waging a war, etc. When a person watches a news report of a war, are they guilty of a thought crime? If they get sexually stimulated by seeing dead people on TV, are they a criminal? No. There are hundreds of thousands who feel like that.

But we cannot destroy them just for thinking, considering or wandering what forbidden things are like. Paedophilia is on the extreme of this, where the sex association is for pubescent (living) people. So we must take it more seriously.

I apologize for repeating such a cliché, but society needs scapegoats. People suppress their own desires, pretend for ever that they do not think immoral things, so they revel in other's lapses in order to prove how honourable they themselves are. Paedophiles are currently our biggest scapegoats to the extent that anything that resembles paedophilia is hated.

The evil effect
Gary Glitter (UK star jailed for downloading child porn from a police web site) was convicted for a thought crime. (He did, however, download an awful lot of the stuff). If you believe in fascism, are you dangerous? No. If you act like a fascist then you are. There are people who believe in all sorts of weird things, and as long as they do not DO anything immoral it is not problem.

Once an "exposed" paedophile is known, what is the worst thing we could do? Insults, hate, death threats and antisocial behaviour are the worst modes of behaviour we can display to a person who feels guilty, insecure and confused. When a group of townspeople picket outside a known offenders house, does this help the problem or make it worse? It makes it worse. All we are doing is venting anger and negative emotion at our scapegoat without thinking.

There are people who are not accepted anywhere. As soon as a paedophile is housed the local press reports "public outcry" and the individual in question is besieged, under police guard, unable to socialize and unable to fit in, ever.

If we want an offender to be a normal functioning member of society, in order to reduce the risk of us creating a monster, why do we act in such a monstrous way? We are creating a situation, creating conflict, we are destroying the humanity of that person. We are morally responsible for them, as we are for everyone. In serious cases of deviancy why do we act in the worst possible way? Is our instinct to scapegoat our own guilt so strong? It would appear so.

"So what if I alienate you? Your whole fucking culture alienates me!"

If we force a person out of society, how can they abide by its rules, and why should they? If we want a person to behave in the way we want them to, can we do it by not allowing them in that society? When we exclude a person from society we are showing our true colors, our own immorality and our own evil.

"Why couldn't they see that by rejecting love, by making those who offered it feel alienated and despised, they were doing everything in their power to turn kind, useful people into embittered, dangerous ones? They had not just taken away my livelihood. That was a trifling matter. Their real crime was to stop me being of use, to myself or anyone else."
Tom O'Carrol, in his book "Paedophilia - The Radical Case" ch 1.

Swallow your pride and help
The types of reactions discussed make the situation worse, which is immoral considering the possible outcomes, the more moral and just way to face this situation is to understand the deviant. Make them know that they are considered just as human, and just as crap, as every other human.

Their anger is justified in many cases where people have been hurt, but the way in which they express their anger is not justified or moral. When a society as a whole shows complete rejection and hate for an individual, then how worse can it get? How can that person feel?

In rejection we are reinforcing our impression upon that individual that he is not part of society, that we have nothing to do with him and that we will not tolerate him. This is wrong. How do they learn to operate normally if we only show them modes of behaviour that are violent, dehumanizing and antisocial?

Paedophilia

Thought crime versus immorality
It is not immoral to be a paedophile. It is immoral for a mature male to be involved with prebuscent people in anything but an altruistic and non-physical way - the effects of pedophilia are harmful₁. Therefore although there is potential for immorality, why is a paedophile immoral unless they actually do something immoral? Everyone has potential to be immoral. This argument is a defense of passive paedophiles.

The main problem is when a paedophile does not know or does not care that he is harming others. Although it may seem very obvious to many people that active paedophilia is immoral, the people involved can justify it in many ways.

• The most common line of thinking that prolific paedophiles will give when questioned is that they are the ones who are seduced by young people, and that the young people "know what they are doing".
• Some of them are unpenetratable. They just do it. Perhaps they don't know why. They know they are wrong, and that in itself is what they are looking for. Acts which separate them totally from society can be sought out, used, emotionally redirected.

Deviancy, Honesty and Health

We will often find that the more dangerous or shocking it is, the more it can spark in our minds. Priests & bishops, constantly expected to be moral, can suppress their own feelings and thoughts (for theological reasons, too, if they belong to a dualistic religion such as Islam, Christianity or Judaism) beyond the point that it is healthy. People cannot pretend not to even have immoral thoughts! The more pressure is on a person like this, whether it is self imposed or not, causes more and more tension.

If we have a bad habit, such as biting ones nails, we can stop it through self-suppression. Because it is a superfluous behaviour to our inner selves it does not infringe on our psyche.

If we try to suppress innate things (lust, greed, anger, etc) then we can only succeed for short periods of time. They are inbuilt characteristics of our biochemistry and hormonal cycles, just the same as every other animal. "Pedophiles and perpetrators of incest are often rigidly religious and moralistic (Gebhard et al., 1965).".

The worst step is reached when a person does not admit to themselves that these thoughts occur. Such religious fervour or devotion is frequently a cover up for a guilty conscience, people who are pressurized to behave well, constantly, are forced into doublethinking and timebombing their way through life.

Honesty is our saviour. We should never cease to analize our own sexual patterns, and find some friends with whom you share your deepest desires, no matter how deviant they are. Thinking about these things allows you much relief. Voicing your deviant thoughts reduces the amount which they control you, it releases their energy.

I conclude that the main problem facing deviants is the taboo. People are scared to be honest about themselves, leading also to them being scared of other people who are deviant because they daren't consider the topics. These taboos are a source of great inhumanity on the personal and social level, there is no point in maintaining them.